It works if you work it

I might be taking this phrase from Al-anon and AA, but it dawned on me this morning that it is a very strong phrase. 

I have always told my clients and students that you need to do your self-work. 

Energy work is all about the self-work and self-illumination. 

This morning I woke up to a strong realization.

 My breathing has changed. I have been gettng much btter sleep and not needing as much. Over the last month while watching my stepfather battle COPD and seeing just how much breathing can play a part in anxiety, fear, pain and can even seem to bring on muscle tremors, it brought me right back to the importance of breath work. 

Many of my clients, friends and family have asked me how I was staying so completely calm during such a stressful period. I replied to each of them that it was my self-work. I really put everything into myself that I had been teaching and coaching. 

If you have been part of any of my classes for Meditation or Hypnosis, I always start with breath work. Many of us have never learned how to control our breath and to breathe deeply. Shallow breaths have been linked to anxiety, fear and pain. This morning I found myself breathing deeper with a rhythmic breath all the way down to my stomach with my stomach rising and falling with every breath. To my surprise, I was also breathing through my nose and not my mouth. This is something that I always taught in my classes and something that I do when I meditate or do hypnosis. I was astonished because I was doing this without thought. 

Could it be that I have been doing it enough that it has become a new norm? Over the last month, I found myself doing my energy psychology techniques, Meditation and Reiki quite a bit. I never thought that it would be something that would change my sleep pattern. I really was throwing everything that I know at myself for relaxation and focus. 

My understanding has always been that a couple of weeks can change our behavior and three months can create a new habit. 

If you feel that you’re having restless sleep, that you cannot calm the monkey brain, and that you are not achieving REM sleep, then let’s give this a try. 

All energy works start from within and many things are revealed to us while we are doing it. However, there are many things that can come up that can get you stuck. You just need someone to hold space, facilitate, and give you the tools to move through it. 

So, as I always say “Change your thoughts, change your mind. Your perception is = to your reality”. If you are going through something and cannot get your thoughts and mind in line, then try some simple breath work. You may just find that your emotional state changes, and your solutions appear.

Why The Law of Attraction might not be working for you

Do you consider yourself a believer in the Law of Attraction? You may not know it as that but how about I ask a few simple questions to see where you land? Ok, here we go:

• Do you believe in the power of affirmation and have been writing positive affirmations on your bathroom mirror, refrigerator and the garage door opener? 
• Do you make a vision board every year wishing for the best but seeing no results?
• Are you caught up in asking the universe for your twin flame/soul mate?
• Do you see where I am going with this? 

If you answered yes to one or all of these questions, then chances are you have been exposed to the Law of Attraction! The Law of Attraction simply states that we attract to us what we want, i.e- Energy begets energy.

We are such wonderful, complete emotional beings that have come back to earth with the inherent need to feel all sorts of different emotions. Because of this, we live our lives in the duality that exist between our hearts and our mind. 

How does this duality come about? Our minds will continually ask for something over and over again but our heart will negate the request. Why would the mind do this? Sometimes we are just trying to keep up with the Joneses, other times we feel we deserve it or we simply believe this will make everything better and right in our world.

In reality we have not gone into our heart space to see what we really want, desire and feel we can obtain.

Because of this duality, conflict arises within our being. And how do we deal with conflict? The majority of us go through life sweeping everything under the rug because we do not want to deal with it or sometimes we just do not have the emotional intelligence to understand what is happening.

This “stuff” continues to grow and eventually all our thoughts and actions become governed by it. We soon find that we are reacting to our past and not what is in our present. This leads us to feel like no matter what we do, we keep getting the same outcome. Then in the middle of all this confusion and mayhem within ourselves, life throws people into the mix to weigh in on your dilemma. People will tell us to look for the lesson in all the drama but how can you when you don’t even understand what is happening?

There are lessons in everything and you can discover them for yourself. Before you start delving into the spiritual side of life, you need to define your reality. If you change your thoughts you will eventually change your mind and there you go, you will change your reality. Perception=Reality.

Take those rose colored glasses off! Wake up and understand that your perception is forming your reality. We see it every day when people differ on what they see. I see a shirt and say it is orange and my friends might say it is peach. Perception differs from person to person.

Your perception is based off of everything you have learned and experienced from your past until now. So, then your next question should be…..How do we move past our perception and create a better reality for ourselves?

You start with first understanding that perception like ego is here to serve us and keep us safe in the world. Your judgments, your beliefs and your stubbornness to change is rooted in fear. Fear actually serves a purpose for many people. It keeps them safe. Safe in this instance= Alive.

Fear of gain is stronger than the fear of loss and what I mean by that is the thing which is familiar is stronger and more acceptable than what is unfamiliar. Familiarity will hold us in our perception to make the same choices over and over again. You don’t date the same bad boy over and over again because you enjoy it. No! You date him because you know him.

Everything in life comes down to vibrations…don’t want to take my word for it? Ask the scientists! Einstein led the cause and the rest of them supported that all of the world is energy and we attract to ourselves what our vibration is. What you need to know is that the vibrations sent out from your heart is stronger and more potent than the vibrations sent out by your mind. Ahhh. 

As you think in your heart so you exist. You may think you need a six figure salary but if you feel in your heart like you don’t deserve that money, then you will never achieve it.

So if you want to do the affirmations, go ahead and do them. What you are doing is impressing your thoughts → to impress your consciousness → to impress your subconsciousness → to reach your super consciousness which is another way of saying your soul level or your heart.

Everything that you have not dealt with emotionally lies in your heart. You must go back and do the heart work to uncover your truth, accept, understand and cherish yourself for how you helped yourself through the good times and the bad before you can really start to find your life purpose.

If you do this work, you will find what really makes you tick and you will discover who you really are. How did it all start? Where did the drama come from? We need to go into ourselves before we try to work with things like the Law of Attraction because we need to know what is really in our hearts or else we will get spotty at best results.

If you need help with the self-work, that’s what I love to do and why I chose my career! At Lotus Wellness Center I see clients for my five week plan called Your Path, Your Journey™. Over the course of five weeks we meet for one 90 minute session each week where we discuss your goals and the challenges blocking you from reaching your desired potential. Each session includes life coaching, theta healing, Access Consciousness® and Reiki. You can always contact me for more information on (703) 966-6878 or reikiwlb@gmail.com.

The mind is a tricky thing, it can make or break your existence. Go into your heart and discover what you really want. The heart holds the answers for a successful life.

Namaste,

Rob